Are you just coping when you need to be healing?

This may not surprise you but I LOVE personal growth.

I spend most of my days being and doing personal growth.

Why?

Because my soul came here to actualize.

I've moved from survival mode to thriver mode to self-actualization.

Spiritual Psychology talks about life being a school. And that we are here to work on and out our personal curriculum.

Think back to all the life lessons you have had thus far.

Did you learn the lesson?

Or do you notice the same lessons coming back around for round 2, 3, 4....you get the point.

This past week, I was watching Iyanla Vanzant on YouTube.

I enjoy watching the healing process, listening for powerful questions asked and seeing the directness of truth, love and compassion.

Plus, Iyanla Vanzant got a Master's Degree in Spiritual Psychology from USM (just like me) so I love seeing Spiritual Psychology in action!

I heard Iyanla talk about coping versus healing and a light bulb went off for me.

That's it!

I was just coping for all those years and it wasn't until I learned Spiritual Psychology that I learned how to heal myself. (Please know that you don't have to go to USM to learn Spiritual Psychology so that you can heal. There's plenty of ways to heal. You have just have to set the intention and back your intention with your action, support and accountability.)

And if you want to learn more about how I use Spiritual Psychology in my recovery, join my Recovery Life Lab where I share Spiritual Psychology and we do massive soul healing so that you can improve your relationships, finances and future. Learn more here!

What's important here is that you assess whether you are just coping or actually healing?

Using substances is coping.
Stopping substances is also just coping.

I think people misunderstand this ALL the time.

They believe that stopping their use (or any other behavior) is them healing when it's not.

To heal something you have to go meet it head on.

💎 You have to say hello.

💎 You have to acknowledge it.

💎 You have to understand what you from it: good and bad.

💎 You have to know it's purpose in your life.

💎 You have to be committed to resolving it, once and for all.

💎 You have to upgrade it to something else.

💎 And you have to keep choosing the upgrade so that you don't go back to the pattern when things get tough, don't go your way or you are feeling stressed and susceptible.

Healing something is learning to bring love to it. To meet this part of you graciously, compassionately and lovingly.

Want to learn more about a healing process. Grab my Helper’s Healing Roadmap here.

Healing doesn't happen in shame or judgment.

I know I tried over and over again to shame my way into better behavior.

It didn't work.

>> Has it worked for you?

>> Have you healed through shame?

>> Have you healed through beating yourself up with your harsh words?

I'm thinking it's probably a NO!

So how might you be able to be kinder, gentler and softer with yourself today so that you can heal versus just cope with life?

One of my clients recently said..."Coping is like white-knuckling it."

So true.

It's like we are waiting for one storm to blow us over, knock us down and set up back into a relapse.

I don't fear storms anymore in my life.

I know that I can use anything that happens to me for the greater good of all.

I know I can weather any storm.

I know I can get through life because of my new found perspective.

And I know that there is learning available for me in any storm that happens. I'm willing to look for the learning, always.

I've done my healing and continue to do it. 🎁

The most common thing I hear from people is that "I don't know where to start?"

First and foremost, you need to know what healing needs to be done.

Most of us have sweep our healing under the proverbial rug for so long that we aren't sure. We've denied our truth for so long, it seems far away. And we've put others first in a ploy to not work on ourselves yet feel good helping others fix their own life.

Today, I'm asking you to look at yourself.

Go ahead. Literally look at yourself in the mirror and ask, "What needs to be healed for me to be the healthiest version of myself?"

What comes up?!

Get curious...

The opportunity here is to love yourself unconditionally through this experience of witnessing and honoring what still needs to be healed.

Drop the tendency to make yourself wrong for needing healing.

What will you do with this information?

Do you notice that you want to run from it?

Or do you notice you lean into it?

You can't outrun your healing.

Will you try to cope with it the best you know how or will you actually engage in a process where you heal yourself.

If healing is in order, message me back and let's start a conversation.

I want to hear what healing is in store for you.

I'm here to help people hear NOT just cope. It's why "getting sober" doesn't resonate with me.

I want to heal not just get sober.
I want to actualize not just survive.
I want to be my healthiest not just get by.

If you've been coping versus healing and this message resonates with you, reach out to me.

I'm here to love and support you.

You don't have to know any answers right now.

Just reach out, connect or grab my Helper’s Healing Roadmap here.