TRUSTING THE PROCESS – LIFE AFTER DIVORCE
By Mary A. Markham, Spiritual Life Coach : May 2021
If you are feeling drained from the legalities of a divorce, separation, child support, divided or blended families, being controlled or abused for so long, it can be difficult to recognize what selfcare looks like, or how to trust any “what’s next” process. Heavy emotions and confusions set in and can easily cloud your thoughts as you may have gone from, “I’ll never get a divorce and be one of “them” to now, being one of “them.” No one goes into a marriage with the expectation of being divorced one day.
When looking back and longing to undo decisions or mistakes, it only steals your joy, precious time, energy and leads to frustration.
What’s next? Are you wondering, how do you even think about moving forward with a foggy brain, broken heart and no energy left to give, especially to yourself?
Recognizing that no matter how many years a person is married, or in a long term relationship, what took years or a lifetime to create may feel like someone just flipped a switch, you’re now in a dark tunnel, stuck, scared, frustrated, full of uncertainty and looking for that dim flickering light of hope as you travel through the unknown dark tunnel ahead.
Ask yourself, “Do I want to stay in this dark tunnel, or find a way out?
Finding the right way out is either by healing past trauma with the help of a therapist, or, if you’re looking to achieve clarity, challenge old ideas that may not be serving you, overcome obstacles, and find someone to support you along your journey, then a Spiritual Life Coach could help you.
Working with a Spiritual Life Coach is an opportunity to stretch yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, which can shine some light on your new path, help you see a future and serve your purpose, stronger than ever, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Although you may be thinking it would be nice if the healing process was like ripping off a bandaid, and all the past pain was instantly gone, it is a process that takes time.
Taking time to heal from the inside out, is different for everyone. And, a long term process keeps you moving forward, rather than a short term, like ripping off that bandaid, which keeps you heading back to being stuck, frustrated and in that dark tunnel with a flickering light.
As a Spiritual Life Coach, I not only help clients, because I am empathetic and passionate about what I do, but I have lived through those experiences. I grew up as a teenager in a blended family, and started over in midlife, with having a blended family.
Starting over and trusting the process can be exhausting, however, by working with me, I share my 5 Step Starting Over Process, which begins with having a strong foundation, seeing the gifts through those silent scars and discovering the beautiful design already created just for you. This process also teaches you to live in the present moment, discover endless possibilities and heals you from the inside out, while witnessing your own transformation.
If you are ready to start over, and strategize next steps with me, let’s talk! Contact me at mary@maryamarkham.com to see how we can work together and which of my offerings best fit your starting over journey.
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