Paradigm Shifts: A Recovery Necessity
In service to demonstrating that the healing journey is life long, I’d like to share a shift I had this past week. I was participating in a CORE training group call. The group facilitator was coaching me through a limiting belief. I was sharing with her how I had always given 100% of myself to my work. I shared that I gave ALL of myself to those I was serving. She kept checking in with me. “All of yourself?,” she asked. “Yes, all” I explained. As I was talking about this immense and intense giving she gently challenged my perspective on giving. She questioned, “Where’s the room for receiving, if you are always giving.” I was rocked. Wow! I had been priding myself on giving all of myself. I never even considered receiving as part of the process. As I sat with this realization, I shared with my group how I was experiencing this new revelation. Giving has always been comfortable for me. Long ago, I had shut myself off from receiving as a form of protection. I have done a tremendous amount of work on opening my heart to receive. My heart is truly open. This feedback has been so important so that I can move forward in being intentional with my receiving. My focus is shifting from opening my heart to now fully receiving what all is in store for me. This is something higher for the greatest good of all concerned!
It’s great that you’ve opened yourself up to receiving what’s yours. Like you say, it’s for the greater good since you can’t give what you don’t have. Not to mention you deserve it. As I read this again, something stood out for me. “I had shut myself off from receiving as a form of protection.” This is something I had always done as well. It protected me from feeling like I had to defend my worthiness to receive good things, which is something I didn’t believe in anyway. Now as I open to receiving my purpose, I’m finding it’s being revealed to me and I find that through effecting positive change in my own life, I’m positively influencing those close to me. So as I’m receiving, I’m also giving. That seems like purpose in itself.
We think we are protecting ourselves from hurt and pain and all the while creating more of it unconsciously. I was watching a Bob Proctor video yesterday and he shared that if you don’t change your paradigms then things won’t change for you. Our thinking is HUGE in the process of change. You’ve been experiencing that first hand how a new paradigm can open you up to new perspective, a perspective that is liberating and inclusive versus closed off and shut down.