I’ve been working with many people over the years in shelters, treatment facilities and now through online and coaching sessions. In the field of recovery, relapse is the big buzz word as people focus on “not drinking” as their means of coping. I knew early on that my substance use was merely a byproduct of deeper healing that needed to happen inside of me. Hence, the reason I don’t call myself an alcoholic. I’m not an alcoholic. I’m a spiritual being having the human experience of drinking and drugging. Once I learned, “I am a spiritual being” it changed everything. It gave me a reason to see myself divine, innately good and most importantly, worthy. I had always attributed worthiness to what I do. With that thinking, my worthiness was low because I was using substances, having mental health issues and really bad at relationships. If worthiness came from what I did, then I was nobody. I wasn’t “winning” at life. With this framework, I was losing and therefore thought of myself as a loser. One of the biggest paradigm shifts in my journey was learning that I’m a spiritual being having a human experience and therefore always worthy. Worthiness comes from being not from doing. That shift in perspective lead me to devoting myself to who I was being in this world. Without resolving this conflict of worthiness we stay stuck in thinking that holds us hostage as a victim to life and the world. I’ve been there, it’s a no win battle that just had me deepening in mental health issues and poor relationship with myself, others and the world. Worthiness is certainly the key. If shame, limiting beliefs or other people stand in the way of your worthiness, then that is the work that needs to be done. Once you are connected to worthiness, you make better choices naturally because that is who you are. On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being I feel very worthy, where do you rate yourself and why?