I don’t know if addiction is a choice. I do know that healing is.
You either choose to heal or you don’t. This is what no one wants to talk about. This is the choice that’s made. You either choose to recovery or you don’t. Own it, either way.
I struggled to choose healing for a long time. I didn’t recover until I did. I didn’t want to recovery for awhile. I wanted to be victim, I wanted to blame others, I wanted other people fix the mess, I wanted to feel sorry myself. And it was a living hell.
I’m going to break it down and keep it real simple for you. It’s I choose to heal or I don’t choose to heal. I take responsibility or I don’t take responsibility. There are no ‘buts’ here.
When you get real about this decision (this choice for yourself), ownership becomes available. It’s not about other people. It’s about you. It’s about you taking responsibility and ownership of your life no matter what’s happened in your past.
And the bottom line is you either want to recover or you don’t. Be honest about that. This honesty is for you. Tell people your truth. You don’t have to feel bad about your truth. Your freedom and the possibility of change lies in you acknowledging your stance on this question; do you choose to heal or not?
It’s a simple question and you either go all in on making it happen or you don’t. All the excuses, rationalizations and stories cloud this choice and keep you in unnecessary suffering. Own that you are creating your own suffering. The day I realized that I was the person creating the suffering now, it was a huge a-ha.
I was the boogey man. I was the perpetrator. I was the abuser. And I was taking myself down, quickly. However, you can free yourself. You are here to free yourself, to use your life’s hardships and evolve and grow. I freed myself, so I know it’s possible.
If you give up on yourself then just let people know. Be truthful. Let people know, I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to heal, I don’t want to recover, I don’t want to grow. Be truthful so that you can be freed of shame, unworthiness and guilt. If absolving your responsibility to yourself is truth then you will experience peace.
I love using an empowerment or disempowerment check to know if I’m being truthful in my life. Do I feel empowered by my choice or do I feel disempowered? It’s a great question to ask with immediate feedback. Empowerment makes me know I’m on track, on course and in alignment. Disempowerment makes me feel off track, off course and out of alignment. This quick and easy check gives you valuable information right way to support you in your next choice.
So go get your recovery…or not. And be you, be truthful and be honest about your choice to recover or not because it can provide incredible freedom and opportunity for change when you get real with yourself.
Being truthful alongside you…